理由很多 两点很重要 I think the reasons can be different, but two points should be identified 拒绝 say no/refuse/give up/get rid of 对未来生活事业规划清晰 they are pretty clear about the future life and career 参加聚会 join in/attend/go to/be enrolled in parties 没有兴趣 they got no interest 爱好不同 different hobbies and passion in life